What happens in the age of #Nonewfriends. Is it just another antisocial media cry for help? Or do we just say it to validate a weakening bond? I mean from juggling preschool friends, primary friends, high school friends, college/university friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, work friends, your children’s friends’ parents. When do does it end? When do we say, “NO NEW FRIENDS,” thanks? These multiple groups you have to intricately navigate, all vying for your affection and attention. A need you loved in primary, “everyone can join” mentality doesn’t actually work when work friend A slept with College friend B, who is now dating high school friend C, no one likes preschool friend D and not to mention boyfriend and girlfriend E and F are actually in a situationship so that’s a mess. Weddings, funerals, birthdays and leaving parties to name a few ends up occupying your mind, calendar and life.
British musician Labyrinth, Sia, and Diplo sang “we are the kings and queens seeking our aces out/we got all we need, no new friends now.” Pop culture is screaming it in our faces but what is the real message being yelled back? Exclusion the new ultimate friendship fulfillment package.
Transition is necessary. As you transition through education, age and life experiences so should the people around you. A network built on support not length of time. I am at the age where my friends are getting married and having children. If my best friend were to ask me for marriage advice, what the hell would I know? I mean, I literally just got off my phone from swiping right and she’s talking about marriage. The friends that used to be my whole world are now a 16-hour flight away… and that’s ok too. Things change.